Belief Systems and Paradigms

Belief Systems and Paradigms

This main page about life belief systems and paradigms will allow you to focus on shifting your paradigm if you wish to, with instructions on how to change your internal scripts and dialogue.

Why would anyone want to change?  Most people don’t change unless there is a really good reason to.  Maybe a person is unhappy or sick and realizes that something’s gotta give.  Or, maybe life just gives you too much to handle and you start to consider that you’re not living the life you wanted.  Or, a whole load of circumstances piled up to force you to change…

Either way, life is change.  Did you ever notice that?  You are always older and hopefully, wiser…but why not willingly change into what you really wish to become, rather than going through life on default, just taking hits or dodging them?  I’ve heard people say, “it’s one thing after another,” when they are in default mode.  More and more of the SOS just keeps coming, because the focus is on problems, not solutions.

A lot of self-help gurus talk about changing your paradigms, and I especially love Dr. Wayne Dyer, who said, “when you change the things you look at, the things you look at change.”  This has profound meaning, because this one statement can immediately and immensely help anyone who wants to get on the right path for their life.  Just think about a person whose life is completely lackluster, and he just gets through the day–maybe he once had bigger dreams, but has deserted the idea of trying, and is so jaded that he can barely get through the day without a barrage of worries and fears about the future.  He has no hope and the only thing he focuses on is negativity–reliving the past, fear of future.

But then, somehow, he manages to realize that there is more to life than what he has been living! He has hope again…and then the things he looks at begin to change…and now he can see possibilities where he thought there were none.  He can now find time to do something he finds interesting, and when he does, he meets someone new.  A whole series of fun begins to unfold, until–WHACK!  He either realizes that it’s all temporary, so he just goes right back to being miserable, OR, he realizes it’s all temporary so he can keep up the positive momentum (and find good things to notice) until he feels better ALL the time.  If he can get over the “hump” so to speak, he’ll be golden.

This positive momentum is a beautiful process, where each person can really begin to find his or herself again…the focus shifts from negative thoughts and worries or lack, to creating the exact idea of what is really wanted, to allowing the best in the self to shine, and taking a risk, even if it’s a small risk each day, to be better than the day before.

I know which person I’d rather be right now, but believe me, I’ve been both!  I much prefer an attitude of abundance, which embraces all people where they are at, and realizes that all in life is good.  Life is a natural progression of all that I have become, and I love all of me.  The more I love and accept myself, the more good I draw to me.  I release all fears and limitations easily.  I do give more detailed information on HOW to do this in my self love report, and it’s free.

Shifting your paradigm doesn’t have to be difficult, it only requires some quiet reflection on each life area.  Your limiting thoughts can easily be dispelled and replaced by better and more true thoughts…empowering thoughts that will actually build your foundation of feeling strong for your future.  You are so important, so make sure you have built yourself on solid ground, that can’t be shaken.

Much love and many blessings!



Peaceful and Positive Parenting using LOA and Affirmations

How do you know if you are the peaceful, positive parent you wish to be?  Do you actively use the law of attraction or affirmations for yourself, your relationships, and your parenting? It’s easy to say that, “I’m a good parent,” but without real introspection, a really terrific parent might feel like he’s is terrible or a really horrible and abusive parent might think he/she is getting by alright.

Unfortunately, many people don’t realize how parenting is undervalued in society, so people don’t take the time to look at what life is really like for parents of small children, instead focusing on how hard it is when they are teens, and complaining about kids being disconnected from adults or being too entitled.  What parents need is a consistent stream of praise for themselves!  But guess what? No one can really give it to them, unless they cultivate it within.  Know that self-love is the missing ingredient to why parents begin to complain about their family lives, so my examples show how when you add the self-love, the paradigm shift is easy.

Let’s look at multiple scenarios, and how you can use helpful parenting affirmations to make a tremendous impact in yourself, your family, and therefore your children…using the law of attraction means that like attracts like, so if you think anything like or similar to these statements, 1.  “Life is hard,”  2.  “Having children is harder than I thought”,  3.  “My kids are terrible”, 4.  I’m a terrible parent”,  5.  “My kids are so demanding”,  6.  “I can’t get anything done,”…maybe it’s time to rethink, and then reprogram your conscious mind to connect to the good in your situation…

First, work on yourself when you have alone time, which could be time you spend after you put your kids to bed, early in the morning, or on weekends.  Begin to program yourself with your new belief system, which is healthier and happier.  Your new beliefs would be like these positive affirmations, which promote peace, happiness, and love within you and others around you that you focus on.

1.  “My life is getting easier and easier”,

2.  “Having children is teaching me a lot of lessons, and I’m now open to seeing the good in all of it.”

3.  “My kids have moments when they get out of balance, and when they do, I will remember that they are brilliant beings that came from God, and chose me to be their parents.  They are counting on me to be loving and peaceful, patient and kind.  When I take a moment to relax and remember who I am as well, I know that all is well and I can easily move through this moment.”

4.  “I’m learning all the time that I have many successes in my life, and I take time to recognize them, write them down, and really milk them because it feels really good to notice my success.  And, I am successful in all areas right now.  As I think about my successes, more thoughts about success easily come to me because it feels good to talk about success rather than failures.  I’ll continue to grow, and I’ll keep expanding, and that feels good, and so I’ll keep doing more of that, and soon I’ll be noticing my kids’s successes more than any shortcomings I’ve seen in them.”

5.  “My children are on the leading edge of thought, and so they have come to have great expectations.  It is good for me to tell them that I can only focus on one thing at a time, and I’ll explain what I’m doing politely so that they know what is first, what is next, and so forth. When I am relaxed, they are also completely calm and welcome my suggestions.  I know I will find an easy way to enjoy my children by being happy in the moment, and pleasing them and soothing them when needed.  I will listen to them as well, and sometimes we will compromise but I like to get a consensus so that everyone willingly and happily agrees.”

6.  “I have such a  great life, and I have so many of my own interests.  I am thankful for some downtime so that I can pursue my own goals, dreams, and interests.  I’m important and am really happy that I’ve ensured that I have created a way to continue to value myself.  I know that when I pursue my passions, it helps me do my best when I’m the parent as well.  I add so much value and love to our family, and I fully know that I make a difference in my family and the world.”

So, there are six alternative strategies using law of attraction affirmations that are sure to help you manifest better thoughts, and therefore, better results in yourself and your parenting and family. Here are even more positive affirmations to use for peaceful parenting: “I’m getting used to seeing myself as valued, and I’m loving myself more all the time.  I’m getting better at finding good in myself, and in my children.  I love telling someone I love him/her and feeling the warmth from their hugs.  I love knowing that I’m making a big impact on my family, because I’m relaxing into myself and learning about who I really am.  When I step back and look at the big picture, life is really good.  I don’t have to point out any small problems or even any big ones, because as I keep on noticing good in me and all around me, only solutions appear.  I love and expect the fun synchronicities that keep happening to me as I line up with allowing the wellness that is mine, in.”

“All of this helps me, because as I get (generally) happier, I grow in all areas of my life, parenting included.  This is an area where I really want to grow, and I am enthusiastic about doing so.  When it comes to myself and my kids, I especially want to praise all aspects that I’m happy about and leave all complaints out.  I’m finding it easier and easier to say, “I love you,” “I’m so happy you are my baby,” “I noticed how generous you were with your sister, and I can see she really loved that you gave her something special to you,” “I think you are very kind and gentle.  Thank you, you are showing me how to do it!” “You have amazing talents, and I’m so glad I get to see you every day.”

When a person changes their paradigm, everything shifts, but I know if a person takes 30 days, and then re-evaluates what they’ve accomplished, they will feel better.  Maybe they won’t have manifested every single thing they wanted in 30 days, but since they feel better, they will stick with it. And then, they will do 30 more days, and 30 more days, and life will just keep getting better and better.

Another main point I want to reiterate is that taking a minute to “get grounded,” or get centered, or breathe, or just relax is KEY to building positive momentum and shifting things into your favor.  It’s good for every person, but it’s even better for parents, so that you don’t say something that triggers your children to react or set off a chain reaction of negative events when you are actively parenting and there is a little person listening to your every word and hoping you’ll be nice.

Take the time, every time, get grounded, even talking yourself through it out loud, saying to the children, “Mommy is taking a minute to feel better and more in control of her thoughts and feelings.  I want to feel my best, and I won’t let a small, passing thing ruin my good mood.”  This is surely one of the BEST lessons you will ever teach your children, and if you are capable of it, you will be divinely happy!

It is my belief that parents must be the light, and teach by example to be peaceful.  In all life areas, the children look to parents for guidance.  For example, if they see a parent who is cursing their sports team’s rivals, as innocent as it may seem, the children get a sense of “hating the other”. If the child is ridiculed for every little thing they need, they will be critical of others as well.  So, it really is parents that must show children to be fair and kind and loving, in each and every moment of the day.  When parents accept their role as the peaceful ones, they will be incredibly happy, because they have removed a burden off their shoulders–they can let the children just BE.

All good for you, and Namaste!

What are Positive Affirmations

I obviously LOVE using positive affirmations on a regular basis throughout my day–I see the power I am creating within myself, I see how good I feel when I focus in this particular way, I see so many good things happening right before my eyes.  But what if you are wondering if any sort of inspirational mantra or affirmation would work for you or someone you love?  Are you a believer, or are you sitting on the fence about whether or not “I am” statements work? Definitely spend some time deciding which camp you are in!  You will have evidence that positive affirmations work depending on which you believe…and get my free self love report as well! 🙂

Look closely at your belief system…be loving as you do, because every person has some limiting beliefs about himself.  For instance, there are people who believe they can do anything they set their mind to, and there are others who just “know” they wouldn’t succeed at a task so they don’t even try.  There are people who think they have always been “fat” and others who believe that they can eat anything, have a fast metabolism, and stay slim.  When you look at these two examples, success attitude or metabolism/weight, you will notice which people you know in each group.

Think of the people you know, your own family and friends, coworkers, spouse, and children, and of course–yourself–and now try to realize your own beliefs about yourself and the world around you.  Take the time to see in which of the following areas of your life you feel you are successful, or if you have a lot of doubt, fear, or confusion.

The main life areas I’d think have the most significance are:

  • Self, including self-love
  • Family,
  • Education,
  • Relationship with spouse,
  • Children,
  • Work,
  • Money
  • Health
  • Friends
  • Community and Service.

When you look at each topic, what comes up for you?  Do you include loving statements about yourself each day, such as, “I am a kind person, a successful person, a great cook, an awesome wife or mother”?  Get on board with using these statements to help yourself reach your goals! In family, do you realize how important you are in the world and your family?  Make a statement!  Do you believe you are smart, or at least smart enough to accomplish a particular goal?  Do you realize what amazing qualities you bring to your relationship with your partner? You are the only person in the entire world that has ever had the particular mix of traits YOU offer.  Give yourself credit freely and often.

Do you enjoy being a parent?  Have you realized your gifts in parenting?  What work are you doing here on earth and do you love it?  Would you like to change some thing about your path, but don’t know how?  Are you making the money you’d like to make?  Would you like an increase in money without a lot of extra work?  And, are you healthy?  Do you realize how many parts of your body DO work right, do you realize how you heal each time you’ve been sick?  Do you know that being sick is a choice?  Are you self-actualizing in the way you’d like, with your hobbies, friends, and community service?

I bet you are shocked at some of the beliefs you didn’t realize were there.  Well, here is the way to resolve how to get where you want to be.  Stay focused, and allow yourself to tap into the abundance that is always flowing for you.  Don’t go back into your past looking for ways to relive it.  Forgive others, move on, and create your future with nothing but eagerness and fun.  I heard it said that there is a reason why our eyes are in the front of our heads, so we don’t look back. Don’t let your limiting beliefs of the past or present continue to determine your bright, amazing future.  You deserve the best!

Positive affirmations are helpful statements a person can make to his/herself to affirm or declare who he is and what he wants.  Many times, the statement begins with “I am…” for affirming in the present and asking for a particular trait that he is seeking is extremely important.

Examples of a few I am statements are:

  • I am strong,
  • I am rich,
  • I am healing,
  • I am loving and peaceful,
  • I am happy.

Using an I am statement is so powerful because it creates a vibration in that emotional state, as long as the person believes it to be true.  Yet, sometimes people do use an affirmation that isn’t really true because that is what they desire and wish to have more of, a very helpful and important thing to do.

I use a combination of “I am” statements, but I also use statements such as, “Every day in every way, I am getting better and better.”  This is an all around, one-two-punch positive affirmation that covers all your bases.  I also remind myself frequently that:

  • “All good things come to me”,
  • All is well,
  • Every thing is working out for me.
  • Life is easy, life is fun, all  is well and getting “well-er” as said by Esther Hicks.

All things I affirm are meant to be done in a general way or about a specific topic, I just choose the ones that feel good at the time.  For instance, if I’ve been noticing how good things are with my husband, I milk it and affirm how great our marriage is for a few minutes while I am alone in thought.  I do the same for my children, noticing all of their triumphs and successes, how amazing they are doing, how happy I am to be their mother.  I find myself repeating often that “my greatest blessings call me mother.”

You are smart, and you can easily see that anything I repeat to myself is phrased positively and in the present tense.  As the law of increase declares, “whatever you praise will increase.”  So, make it a point to praise all the things in life that are working out wonderfully; notice them, appreciate them, and more love, appreciation, and good situations and people will come to you.

The alternate is also true, that if you are complaining, you will get more things to complain about, so be cautious if this has become your normal state of thinking.  It is possible to get back to a state of appreciation on EVERY topic in your life, but it takes practice.  This is because negativity happens over time, and it can’t be changed in a day, but if you practice appreciation and positive affirmations REGULARLY and don’t give up on them, they will change your life.

So, what are positive affirmations?  The single-most powerful tool you have to become the genius, loving, healthy, wealthy, and happy, joyous person you were meant to be.  They can be easily used with hypnosis, subliminals, The Silva Method, and many other techniques with great success to change your belief system or change your paradigm. Use them with reckless abandon to feel good on the way to all the things you desire.

I promise!  Much love.

%d bloggers like this: